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big babies
here's a quote i liked from "big babies"
“Big babies cause tears.” – I just don’t believe this! Big babies don’t cause tears as much as impatient care providers, rough perineal massage, epidurals, lithotomy position, coached pushing, poor diet in pregnancy, dehydration…! The two largest babies I’ve ever seen born were 11 lbs 8 ounces (this weekend), and 13 pounds 5 ounces (many years ago). Neither mom tore at all. (see #2 analogy of smoke detectors)
i second that!! my second baby was a pound bigger than my first - with my first i tore very badly (had an epidural and rough perineal massage by the doctor, which i thought was supposed to help not tear...but have found out that increases the chances of tearing...great!) - with my second...slight tear...like a papercut that didn't even need stitches. it healed on its own...i felt normal the second i gave birth (i am not kidding). there was no recovery. sooooo. i agree with the fact that big babies do not necessarily mean "big tearing."
what bugs me...
here's a quote i liked from "what bugs me..." it's something to think about...really! (emphasis added)
When I am talking to someone who finds out that I’m a midwife and their response is, “Oh, I LOVE my epidurals!!” (wait – I’m not to what bugs me yet! That’s fine and dandy with me, I totally get that and I’m glad that they had positive experiences with an epidural!) But as we continue the conversation and they start telling me about how they have horrible heartburn and their doctor gave them some prescription but they don’t want to take it because they don’t want the drugs to get to the baby….that they won’t even take Tylenol because they are pregnant….they are M-O-R-T-I-F-I-E-D if they see someone pregnant take a sip of wine!! But on the day in which their baby will go through the largest physical transformation they will ever have, the ONE day in which drugs will have the biggest possible impact on that baby….on that day they almost proudly declare, “Load me up!” (i've totally heard that before)
Let me make this clear….no, it is not just that your baby’s lungs start breathing, it’s so much more than that. Let’s look at just your baby’s heart! What happens IMMEDIATELY at birth…
… As soon as the baby is born, the foramen ovale, ductus arteriosus ductus venosus and umbilical vessels are no longer needed.
… The sphincter in the ductus venosus constricts, so that all blood entering the liver passes through the hepatic sinusoids.
… Occlusion of the placental circulation causes an immediate fall of blood pressure in the IVC and right atrium.
- Increasing uptake of oxygen by lungs (first and subsequent breaths) induces a vasoconstriction of ductus venosus and ductus arteriosis
… As soon as the baby is born, the foramen ovale, ductus arteriosus ductus venosus and umbilical vessels are no longer needed.
… The sphincter in the ductus venosus constricts, so that all blood entering the liver passes through the hepatic sinusoids.
… Occlusion of the placental circulation causes an immediate fall of blood pressure in the IVC and right atrium.
- Increasing uptake of oxygen by lungs (first and subsequent breaths) induces a vasoconstriction of ductus venosus and ductus arteriosis
It’s socially unacceptable to take a sip of wine when you are 28 weeks pregnant…but totally okay to do Stadol and get an epidural with Fentanyl in it (Fentanyl is 100 times more potent than Morphine) – in fact, it’s weird if you don’t do that. I don’t get it.
i hope you don't get annoyed with my comments. i really admire you for doing this. i know with me i just did what i thought i was supposed to do. what my mother did and what everyone told me to do. i never tried to learn for myself, something i really regret. but i can not go back, i can only move forward. thanks!
ReplyDeleteI just wanted to thank you for this post. I am five months pregnant with my first, and I have all kinds of big ideas about having a natural and healthy normal birth. The day I read this post, one of my friends told me this "awful" story (after a few other women tried to stop her, to save me from being scared). The whole story involved a woman having an 8 lb. baby at 36 weeks. Huge and terrifying, no? I was able to just smile and nod at her story, and I had no fear at all, thanks to having read about healthy big baby births. I feel strongly that the less fear I have, the better everything will go. You are helping with that. Thank you again.
ReplyDeleteJB - i am so happy i can contribute to your journey towards a peaceful birth! what a wonderful thing to feel calm in the midst of so many "awful" birth stories. you will do wonderful! keep me updated on your birth!
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